Renée Liefde & Sex 29/07/2018

Dit zijn de allergrootste afknappers volgens 21 mannen

Als er iets gecompliceerd is, dan is het daten wel. Natuurlijk hoeft het niet zo te zijn, maar ervaring leert dat je eerst een hele hoop onsuccesvolle dates moet hebben voordat er eentje écht slaagt.

Waar je natuurlijk prima een goed gesprek kunt hebben, is het vinden van een close match een behoorlijke opgave. Iedereen heeft weer z’n voorkeuren: zo vind jij het wellicht super belangrijk dat je toekomstige partner ambitie heeft en spontaan is, en is je date misschien meer op zoek naar iemand die vastigheid heeft en binnen een paar jaar een gezinnetje wil stichten. Iedereen is anders en dat is maar goed zo.

Wanneer het op mannen aankomt, blijft het voor vrouwen soms een tikje moeilijk ze te begrijpen. Een aantal Reddit-gebruikers besloot hun grootste afknappers maar eventjes te delen, voor wat meer duidelijkheid. Hierbij tips en deal breakers van 21 geheel diverse (hetero) mannen – doe er je voordeel mee, of niet. Waar de meeste reacties serieus bedoeld zijn, zitten er logischerwijs ook een paar lolbroeken tussen. We hebben het immers over Reddit.


1. ‘Someone who needs to tear others down in order to feel good about herself.’ – jestakilla

2. ‘Having no interest in anything. I don’t care if you love makeup and talk to me for hours about it, but seeing someone be so passionate about something is amazing. I love movies and could talk about my favorites for hours. I just want to see an interest in what makes you, you.’ – pholyuhm

3. ‘An inability to have a conversation. I can’t tell you how many times I have done all the talking on the date. I try to ask questions and am met with three word responses. “It’s alright”, “Yea, its a job” etc.’ – p_s_laplace

4. ‘bad breath [and] them talking to me telling me their current relationship isnt working out and it will be over soon. i have a friend caught in that right now. he met a girl at the pool at his apartment complex, and she flirted with him, they exchanged numbers, and he found out she has a boyfriend but at the same time is trying to hook up with my friend and telling him she wants to date him, that it isn’t working out with her current boyfriend.

i told him not to fall for that. because if one thing goes wrong if she breaks up with her b/f and the two of you date, she’ll do the same exact thing to you, meet another guy and tell him it isn’t working out with you and go behind your back and cheat.’ – nujurzy87

5. ‘An annoying laugh. There is a good reason why hyenas only mate once a year.’ – magic_louse

6. ‘Saying no to dating me. Im just like, yeah this isnt gonna work.’ – adseyv

7. ‘When a girl plays the victim in everything, it’s really hard to believe them when they say that something bad happens. I’ve found this is often paired with a sense of entitlement, and that they just end up living in their own little world all the time.’ – gilgamore


8. ‘Playing mind games / doing shit tests etc.

I have absolutely zero tolerance towards those. If I spot a potential candidate doing that, I immediately lose a lot of respect towards him/her and become suspicious. The second time I see him/her trying to pull of some kind of similar stuff, it’s time for goodbyes. I’m looking someone trustworthy and with whom I can be at ease. Not someone who tries to provoke a fight every day.’ – poormanstonystark

9. ‘When she calls you stupid. Hurts really bad. I didn’t grow up the smartest kid, but I successfully graduated highschool with a 2.9. My father always brought me down calling me stupid and shit and when a girl says I’m stupid, dumb, etc just really breaks me down.’ – justashark22

10. ‘Smoking. It’s a big turn-off’ – dessel90

11. ‘Clinginess. Personal space & time is necessary.’ – turntdepage

12. ‘I hate drama’ – sedatedswede

13. ‘A woman with no ambition. If you’ve got no goals for your life my goal is to avoid you.’ – closetmadscientist

14. ‘I don’t mind cats but you’ve really got to pick up after them. If I walk into your place and the first thing I smell is cat it’s not going to work.’ – aimless_grizzly


15. ‘Refusing to ever be wrong. Lying. Not appreciating things done specifically for them. Trying to make me jealous (I won’t be, be with me or not, her choice.) Being lazy, boring, and unintelligent.’ – casperboy68

16. ‘I can’t stand when a girl can’t hold a conversation or doesn’t ever have anything interesting to say. If I have to carry literally every conversation we have, I’m out.’ – surfing_ninjas

17. ‘Women who carry ‘purse dogs’ around.’ – ihateregistering6

18. ‘Me: So what do you like to do in your free time? Her: Take naps… Sleep is my life. Why would you say that on a first date??’ – 95tacoma

19. ‘Definitely a penis. Deal breaker every time’ – ofmichaelandmen

20. ‘after a bad relationship. hard drugs of any kind. entitlement

[I don’t mean this] as in a girl who just got out of a bad relationship and then did drugs would be a dealbreaker, thats very specific. I meant I just got out of a bad relationship with someone who did hard drugs and she was abusive, she didn’t only abuse me, she abused drugs. lol’ – xxcalbraxx

21. ‘They want or have children. I don’t take stress well, and I don’t really want to deal with children. Only two people I’ve ever met in thirty years have had children that I liked, so if you have or want children, I don’t want to go on a date with you.’ – idiotsonfire


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